The Family Culture Movement (Archive‪)‬ Jodi Chaffee

Jeanie Cisco-Meth returns to the podcast with another great conversation! Jeanie has written two best selling books despite being told in elementary school I was too stupid to make it. She was in the Army and the first female to make the Ranger Challenge team in Utah. She loves her life everyday.
Her book, Bully Proofing You: Taming the Bully Between Your Ears is in the education business helping people through our presentations, workshops, best-selling books, and mentoring is a reminder that it's not about you. It's about the pain others are facing. They feel depressed and anxious and they can't stand it if you don't feel the same way. When you remember they are in pain, you can let their cutting comments go.
Jeanie recalls being bullied. She saw my children bullied. She was a high school teacher for 17 years and had to do something to make a difference. In our interview she also recalls being the difference when she was the first woman in her family to stand up for herself. She feels she was born to break the cycle of manipulation in her family.
Learn more about Jeanie at https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeanieciscometh/
https://www.facebook.com/officialjeanieciscometh
https://www.instagram.com/ciscometh/
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Evette Davis is a parenting expert, author, and huge advocate of traditional family values. Evette joins us from Washington, DC where she raised 3 kids, taking them from public schools to American’s top universities. Today she talks to us about parenting as a single mother and her new book set, “The Adventures of Sunny” and how reading to your kids can help prepare them for college.
During a time of setback in Evette's life, she turned her situation around and became an entrepreneur. Evette is now a children's author, with 5 published books, a YouTube channel, and more books on the way.
Evette and I talked about how children are exposed to too much negative media. Movies and vision programming are everywhere. Unfortunately, most of it is not happy, wholesome, and healthy for young minds. So much of our media today is full of profanity, fear, shock, murder, and general negativity. Further, explicit sexual content is everywhere, from advertisements to billboards...it's almost ubiquitous. Keeping healthy images and positive media in front of our kids can be an uphill battle.
Kids are like sponges, they absorb their environment. If they grow up watching shows filled with dysfunction, they will see this as normal. This will definitely impact how they behave.
Connect with Evette:
www.dymondjewel.com/books
https://tinyurl.com/Storytime-w-Ms-Dymond

After going from a strong, moral upbringing in Southern Oklahoma to a drug-related downfall that had me facing federal prison, Robert Newman understands what those who are addicted feel and think. That’s what enables him to cut through the resistance and manipulative tactics of an addicted person and help them choose life and recovery.
In the eighteen years since Robert completed a long-term drug rehabilitation program, he has educated more than a hundred thousand youth on the dangers of drug abuse and helped thousands of people with drug or alcohol rehabilitation. Many of those he helped with their addictions as a substance abuse counselor, now many more as a drug intervention specialist.
Now, Robert's focus is on doing interventions that turn situations from tragic to hopeful. When he walks into a room full of family who have asked for help, he knows exactly how to cut through the emotion and confusion and establish ground rules to make the intervention a success. A successful intervention is so much about preparation. Robert will work with the family to ensure they have chosen a good rehab and cut off all avenues of evasion so their loved one has only one choice ahead of them — start rehab right now.
Robert Newman helps families and save lives by helping addicts in need find good treatment programs and families with loved ones suffering with addiction get into treatment.
In this episode, Robert and I talk about breaking the cycle of addiction, supporting family members in intervention and recovery, and how to foster a culture of preventing drug addiction.
Connect with Robert at https://www.newmaninterventions.com/
Robert is sharing his 25 Tips for Successful Intervention for the Family Leadership Toolbox. I will put it in the Toolbox under Mental Health!
Go to https://bit.ly/FamilyCultureLeadership to log in.

Whitney Bean is a wellness and life coach. Her business is to help moms to find balance and to listen to their natural instincts and experiences in order to then show up as the most authentic and genuine version of themselves. She passionately believes that they can then in turn utilize those tools and skills to create an intentional home that can also find balance, peace, and flow.
A mom of 4 kids ages 1-10, Whitney loves to dig into the messy, stressful, and dramatic areas of her client's lives so that she can help them to organize, evaluate, and find balance from the inside out. Whitney is passionate about building a home-based intentional, natural, and practical principles that bring peace, unity, and balance.
Whitney and I talked about how she thinks the concept of "hard work" in order to get what you want is something that is culturally stuck.
When we work with our natural capability to feel and experience and blossom as individuals, creating amazing outcomes and results is a wonderful side effect. You can push through and work like crazy to get there, but if you check in and come from a place of balance, you'll get there as a genuine and natural bi-product of living an intentional life.
A suggested solution to counteract the over-emphasis on pushing hard work is setting up systems that will regularly check in with each member of the family and help the family to feel like a supported family unit. Each member is responsible for their emotions, actions, and interactions. When the home acts as its own organism, that overall balance will create flow and help the family to achieve goals and outcomes that they might have otherwise pushed to get done. For example, growing a garden as a family--you could push each family member to get garden chores done, or you could spend time together in the garden where naturally pulling weeds and checking on the plants is a comfortable and fun time together.
As moms learn to check in regularly and allow space to feel and respond, they're genuine and connected. They're at peace in the present moment and there's no better gift that you can give your kids day to day than them seeing you self-care easily and be with them.
After a health crisis in her 20s, Whitney started learning to look inward for solutions. For two years she searched for solutions outward through medications and testing. When that didn't work she started leaning toward holistic remedies. This is the approach Whitney takes with her wellness clients. She helps you connect inward to create your solutions.
Whitney has provided a freebie inside of the Family Leadership Toolbox which you can access by logging in at https://bit.ly/FamilyCultureLeadership. Her freebie is a "Restoring Balance" download to help you define what balance looks like in four areas of your life.
To connect with Whitney, go to www.whitneybean.com

Dr. Shefali was 44 years old when she had an epiphany: the only person stopping her from harnessing her inner power was herself. She says, “I truly believe that there comes a critical moment in a woman’s life – typically around mid-life – where she faces a pivotal choice. I certainly came to that moment in my own life: either I continued being inauthentic to myself and stayed encaged in fear OR I stepped into a new dimension where I was fully, consciously, my true self.”
Coming to a critical juncture in her own life, she had no choice but to walk away from the past. Dr. Shefali let go of her unhappiness, her ego, and discovered a profound freedom and purpose. Her moment of radical awakening led to the birth of a new self. What she experienced in her own journey, Dr. Shefali realized was readily available to all women.
Featured prominently on Oprah Winfrey's platforms, Good Morning America, the Today Show, Hoda & Jenna, among many others…. Dr. Shefali is a The New York Times bestselling author and renowned clinical psychologist teaching women how to transcend their fears and illusions, breaking free from societal expectations, and rediscovering the person they were always meant to be: fully present, conscious, and fulfilled.
According to Oprah Winfrey – “The world needs to know. Trailblazing. Life-enhancing. [A Radical Awakening is] one of those books you will want to keep on your nightstand.”
DR. SHEFALI received her doctorate in clinical psychology from Columbia University. Specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, she brings together the best of both worlds for her clients. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. Dr. Shefali has written four books, including the award-winning, New York Times bestsellers The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. She's been featured prominently on Oprah Winfrey's platforms, Good Morning America, the Today Show, Hoda & Jenna, among many others. Dr. Shefali lives in New York City. More at: www.aradicalawakening.com
Dr. Shefali is a prominent clinical psychologist who received her doctorate from Columbia University. She specializes in the integration of Eastern philosophy and Western psychology, making her an expert in her field.
Dr. Shefali and I talked about her new book and the shift away from external validation as the norm in our culture. To be more authentic means to be self-aware and know your intrinsic value.

What is up, family culture hackers?! Welcome to the movement to revolutionize your family culture - a movement to shift away from the norms and values established by a society and a history saddled in a narrative of vanity, fear, scarcity, lack, prejudice, consumerism, inauthenticity, and contempt. These prevailing and pervasive beliefs are everywhere and most of us know it but we don’t really know what to do about it! 
I started learning about these dysfunctional beliefs when my life started going off the rails in 2016 (well, it started a lot sooner than that, but we’ll get into that later)! My husband, Michael, was miserable at his job. He hadn’t been able to find work in line with his goals so he found whatever he could and then found himself underemployed and unappreciated. We started having serious money problems, and soon found ourselves spiraling into serious depression. Without even realizing it, we were playing out a scripted narrative based in a patriarchal belief system. More than this, we were playing out a narrative of scarcity and lack, and fear and inauthenticity that had been inadvertently passed on to us from previous generations that have been deeply ingrained in our family and societal belief systems. We had roles to play, images to uphold, and duties to perform. We did everything right, and should have been on the right track. We kept our struggles at the surface in an effort to superficially resolve our problems with linear thinking to keep up the status quo. This status quo meant keeping up appearances and playing out the script for the foreseeable future. Then, we began to crack. The vision of being stuck like this forever was deeply depressing. There was no end and no escape. In 2019, we’d had enough. Michael quit his job. We sold our house. We moved in with my parents to reduce our expenses. We filed bankruptcy in 2020, and faced all our demons. All of them. 
If you are dying to make a change in your life somehow but you are feeling stuck, it is not your fault! These dominant belief systems often live just beneath the surface of your consciousness and you live out your day to day reacting to these beliefs. They have been passed on to you by society and family - sometimes even written into your DNA, so how could you know about it?! 
Family culture hacking is all about learning how to recognize these dysfunctional belief systems and stopping them in their tracks! Whenever you spot one, you’ll be able to say, “ah ha! Caught you!” Like a glitch in the Matrix. You’ll start to see them lurking everywhere - in your thoughts and language; in media, music, and marketing; in education; in government and politics; and even in your daily habits!
There are three major players in the belief systems you pick up that influence your family culture the most. Author James Clear refers to these players as “the close,” “the many,” and “the powerful.” The close refers to your family and your community. The many refers to society at large and the commonly accepted narratives and norms you witness in the media and marketing. The powerful refers to the influencers, the leaders, and the game-changers throughout history who set the cultural expectations of your beliefs and identities. 
If you aren't aware, these three players can keep us stuck in a cultural identity that influences your thoughts, behaviors, and patterns. Because of the way humans are wired, we don’t want to be different. We learn early on how to fit in so we don’t get into trouble, or we learn when to stand out when we want to get what we want! We pick up beliefs about who we are to explain to ourselves how the world works and where we fit into the grand scheme of things. 
It’s likely you have learned to be comfortable with those beliefs because they have protected you and have provided you with your basic human needs. They have shaped your identity and perhaps have gotten you through some seriously troubling situa